I’ve been traveling by myself for the past couple of years now.
And yes, even though it can be fun. (and in some cases way too much fun for my own good)
One of the biggest struggles that no one ever talks about because they don’t want to is the battle with loneliness that you will eventually feel as a digital nomad or solo traveller.
So without further ado..
This is my exact process to kick the struggles of loneliness in the ass. Find out in today’s video.
What’s up my fellow freedom fighters?
It’s your boy Mike Vestil here in my Airbnb in Kraków, Poland.
Today, we are going to talk about my transition when I decided to move to Chiang Mai, Thailand.
So the other day, I was looking at the comments on my YouTube channel.. (which I answer all the time by the way.. so if you have any questions you can ask them).
And I stumbled upon a question that was asked by a fellow freedom fighter Justin Park.
This is exactly what he said…
“Grateful for you uploading these positive uplifting videos.. How was your transition to moving to Chiang Mai? How difficult was it?”
Well first and foremost, Justin Park, thank you so much for asking that question!
To start things off, let me be straight up honest. When you see my videos, they’re really uplifting and I’m always happy and optimistic. But when I initially moved to Chiang Mai, Thailand, truth is… it was extremely difficult for me.
If you’ve been following my journey, you’ll notice that I’ve been binge traveling a lot before I actually moved.
And I was in and out of cities and countries within two or three days. The entire time was fun because I was able to meet a lot of travelers and new friends.
But one of the downsides to which no one really talks about in making money online & traveling is..
You say goodbye to more people than anyone else can possibly do in their entire lifetime.
So I decided to choose Chiang Mai, Thailand and move there. It’s so I could start networking with like-minded individuals FOR A LONGER PERIOD OF TIME rather than just three to five days.
One of the hardest things that I struggled with when I first moved was LONELINESS.
But little did I know, it ended up being one of the best things for me.
Here is exactly how I dealt with it.
Step #1: Make Sure You GO ALONE
This is one of the first things that I would definitely recommend doing if you’re going to move to a new country or new city.
You want to make sure that you go alone because that’s what’s going to motivate you to actually get out of your comfort zone.
Let’s say you don’t and you end up going with a friend. The fact is, you are not going to be really motivated to talk to someone else because you have each other to talk to.
So if you really want to make the move to Chiang Mai, Thailand or to any other country. .
One of the most rewarding and most fulfilling favors that you could do for yourself, is to go alone.
Because it’s that feeling of loneliness that’s going to inspire you to push yourself out of your comfort zone and to actually meet new like-minded people.
Step #2: Focus on Learning a NEW SKILL
I truly believe that the secret to happiness is not just in the materialistic things that we own or the new stuff that we buy. It’s in the PROGRESS that we make.
It’s about growth and learning.
So when you move somewhere, you want to make sure that you also have a SKILL in mind that you want to learn.
The coolest thing about this is it comes with a network of people that share similarities with you.
So for me when I moved to Thailand, I already knew that I wanted to get into Muay Thai.
Muay Thai is really prevalent here in Thailand and I know it’s something that I could get my fitness involved in.
That’s the first thing that I did.
I did not know anyone here until I met my first friend, Arman. He’s the one in the video clip with a huge beard and was pretty damn intimidating, (I thought at first he was an assassin). .
But he ended up becoming one of my closest friends until today. And that would have never happened if I never tried learning a new skill.
Step #3: Push Yourself OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE!
Every single day, you should ask yourself before you actually go to bed…
“Did I do the one thing today that frightened me?”
Because it’s in those moments of fear that you actually grow as a person. It’s where you realize what you’re made of.
One of the biggest things that was hard for me was to say “hi” to random people.
But my fellow freedom fighters, you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone! It will definitely help in making the entire experience so much more rewarding.
One time, I was silently sitting in a co-working space in a mall in Chiang Mai. It’s where a bunch of people are just working with their laptops.
I was editing my videos for YouTube and next to me was now my friend, Moad.
And out of nowhere during that time, I heard his phone go off with a Shopify sale notification.
I ended up looking at his ads to help, and was able to see what he was doing wrong. And by that mere interaction, I was able to help him scale from $300 a day to over $1000 a day.
And to me, that was really cool seeing that amount of success from approaching a stranger through a simple “hi.” I found out that this guy was a really good entrepreneur that had similar mindset as I did.
I know for sure I would’ve never made this amazing friend from Italy if I didn’t go out of my comfort zone and actually said hi when I had the opportunity to do so.
So make sure guys, when you’re making the move to get out of your comfort zone, here’s what you can do:
- Stop talking to friends that you’re maybe traveling with.
- Turn to the right or to the left and say hi to a stranger
- Give them a compliment
- And find a way to give value to them from your experiences or just a funny story
And I’m telling you, you’ll get better with every transition you make each time you apply this approach.
Step #4: Create a Personal Brand
I didn’t know about this at that time, but apparently there were people in Chiang Mai that were already watching a lot of my videos.
So for everyone that’s been watching my videos from Chiang Mai, Thailand, I love you guys so much! Especially to those who said hi to me.
It’s so cool seeing that there’s some freedom fighters around!
If it wasn’t for me creating my YouTube videos and this personal brand, I probably wouldn’t have met one of the closest friends I have in Chiang Mai, Thailand. It’s Aurio.
You can check out his interview on how he went from 0 to $10, 000 a month here.
So there I was, just eating a burrito and Aurio just came by and made a shocking approach. It surprised me that he actually knew my name.
I was nervous at first because he was the first and only person that recognized me.
What I appreciated about Aurio was that when a lot of people just want to ask me so many questions about Facebook Ads or Shopify (which are awesome, I love those questions), he didn’t.
Sometimes I just want to talk about fun and the normal stuff or just hang out. I don’t usually talk about business like ALL THE TIME.
As for Aurio, he came to me as if he was already an old friend. He was talking about his plans of going to a bar and meeting new people in the place.
What happens is, this guy came to me in a position of just OFFERING VALUE.
Here’s how he did it…
He introduced me to other like-minded people that were in the same industry who were also building their personal brands.
Because of that one guy saying hi to me and introducing me to all of his entrepreneur friends, I was automatically plugged into now a huge social network of badass entrepreneurs.
So guys, those are the four things that you could do if you’re traveling or moving to a new country. Here’s a quick summary:
You want to make sure that…
- You go alone
- Focus on learning a new skill. That’s what’s going to increase your happiness and connect you with other like-minded individuals that gather on the same journey
- Push yourself out of your comfort zone and say hi to people
- And create your personal brand by RECORDING the entire process
Guys, recording the entire process and building a personal brand, such as creating a blog or a YouTube channel and just sharing your experiences will be one of the most rewarding things that you could ever do in your entire life.
So hopefully that helps!
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